Battered But Not Broken

This is a story of a Nigerian Housewives who went through some serious challenges in the first 7 years of her marriage but survived. She is married with 3 children, a graduate of a polytechnic. While she dated her husband, it was all rosy, full with fun, romance, and care. 

Once she got married, things changed, her husband became controlling, jealous, no more fun, no romance. He kept female friends that he never admitted to having an affair with but indeed was having an affair with, late night calls from them, text, even hanging out till mid night. 

And when he came back, he would be all drunk. She stayed up late to open the door for him and any delay resulted to beating-violence. The children lacked the presence of their father and each time they go to mummy asking about daddy, she would cover up. He never eats in his house, no care for his in-laws or wife’s looks. 

All she did was pray and persevere, and listen to her mother’s good advice, her mother always encouraged her to persevere that it was going to be okay someday. 

This routine lingered for 7 years until one Sunday evening when he came back late as usual, met his wife and mother-in-law watching African magic in the living room and walked pass them without uttering a word as usual into his room to relax, while relaxing he turned the channel to a program where the speaker preached about husbands eating outside and that was the Turning point. The preacher talked about a man who eat in a particular restaurant daily for years not knowing the cook uses charm to hook up with men who patronize her and drain up their finances living them unable to plan and have a home, it was just like the speaker was talking to him, after the program, her husband decided to stop eating outside and chose to start eating at home with his family, indeed this decision he took was the beginning to joy in the family as all his bad behaviours were destroyed and everything became anew like the honeymoon she never experienced. 

Lessons; whatever situation you find yourself pray and patience is always key for the sustainability of a home. Running away or losing it is never a way out, no one is perfect!