The Good Wife-Prayer Battle Day 7-9

DAY 7

PRAYING FOR HIS MIND-This is where both the good and the bad thoughts are generated which in turn is put in action. Good or Bad thoughts can control ones life, no one wants a life filled with bad actions, so take control of your minds first and pray that every thought your husband has is good and captive under God’s control.

PRAYER

Lord, I pray for Your protection on my husband’s mind. Shield him from the lies of the enemy. Help him to clearly discern between Your voice and any other, and show him how to take every thought captive as You have instructed us to do. May he thirst for Your Word and hunger for Your truth so that he can recognize wrong thinking. Give him strength to resist lying thoughts. Remind him that he has the mind of Christ. Where the enemy’s lies have already invaded his thoughts, I push them back by inviting the power of the Holy Spirit to cleanse his mind. Lord, You have given me authority “over all the power of the enemy”(Luke 10:19). By that authority given to me in Jesus Christ, I command all lying spirits away from husband’s mind. I proclaim that God has given him(your husband’s name) a sound mind. He will not entertain confusion, but live in clarity. He will not be tormented with impure, evil, negative, or sinful thoughts, but be transformed by the renewing of his mind, that he may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God(Romans 12:2).

Enable him to “be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might”(Ephesians 6:10). Help him to be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let his requests be made known to You; and may Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, guard his heart and mind through Christ Jesus(Philippians 4:6,7). And finally, whatever things are true, noble, just, pure, lovely, or good report, having virtue, or anything praiseworthy, let him thin on these things(Philippians 4:8).

POWER TOOLS

2 Corinthians 10:3-5

Romans 8:6; 7:23: 7:25

Mark 12:30

DAY 8

PRAYING FOR HIS FEARS-There are so many things humans are afraid of and you have to pray your husband is held captive of it.

PRAYER

Lord, you’ve said in Your Word that  there is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love(1John 4:18). I pray You will perfect my husband in Your love so that tormenting fear finds no place in him. I know You have not given him a spirit of fear. You’ve given him power, love, and a sound mind(2Timothy 1:7). I pray in the name of Jesus that fear will not rule over my husband. Instead, may Your Word penetrate every fiber of his being, convincing him that Your love for him is far greater than anything he faces and nothing can separate him from it.

 I pray that he will acknowledge You as a Father whose love is unfailing, whose strength is without equal, and in whose presence there is nothing to fear. Deliver him this day from fear that destroys and replace it with Godly fear(Jeremiah 32:40). Teach him Your way, O Lord. Help him to walk in Your truth. Unite his heart to fear Your name(Psalm 86:11). May he have no fear of men, but rise up and boldly say, The Lord is my healer; I will not fear. What can man do to me?(Hebrews 13:6) How great is Your goodness, which You have laid up for those who fear You(Psalm 31:19).

I say to you (husband’s name), Be strong, do not fear! Behold, your God will come with vengeance, with the recompense of God; He will come and save you(Isaiah 35:4). In righteousness you shall be established; you shall be far from oppression, for you shall not fear(Isaiah 54:14). You shall not be afraid of the error by night, nor the arrow that flies by day, nor of the pestilence that walks in darkness, nor of the destruction that lays waste at noonday(psalm 91:5,6). May the Spirit of the Lord rest upon you, the Spirit of wisdom and understanding, the Spirit of counsel and might, the Spirit of knowledge and of the fear of the Lord(Isaiah 11:2).

The Good Wife-Prayer Battle Day 4-6

DAY 4

PRAYING FOR HIS SEXUALITY – One very important part of marriage is sexuality, not only is it to procreate but it is also a bond between the man and wife, and that is why you need to pray that the bond remains and the sexuality is never drawn back.

PRAYER

Lord, bless my husband’s sexuality and make it an area of great fulfillment for him. Restore what needs to be restored, balance what needs to be balanced. Protect us from apathy, disappointment, criticism, busyness, unforgiveness, deadness, or disinterest. I pray that we make time for one another, communicate our true feelings openly, and remain sensitive to what each other needs.

Keep us sexually pure in mind and body, and close the door to anything lustful or illicit that seeks to encroach upon us. Deliver us from the bondage of past mistakes. Remove from our midst the effects of any sexual experience – in thought or deed – that happened outside of our relationship. Take away anyone or anything from our lives that would inspire temptation to infidelity. Help us to “”abstain from sexual immorality” so that each of us will know “how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor”(1 Thessalonians 4:3-5). I pray that we will desire each other and no one else. Show me how to make myself attractive and desirable to him and be the kind of partner he needs. I pray that neither of us will ever be tempted to think about seeking fulfillment elsewhere.

I realize that an important part of my ministry to my husband is sexual. Help me to never use it as a weapon or a means of manipulation by giving and withholding it for selfish reasons. I commit this are of our lives to You, Lord. May it be continually new and alive. Make it all that You created it to be.

POWER TOOLS

1 Corinthians 6:18-20; 6:13

Proverbs 5:15-19

DAY 5

PRAYING FOR HIS AFFECTION-Sex and affection are different things and a man and wife needs it, those little hugs, pecks, carrying…. if you are in a marriage and it lacks, pray for the Holy Spirit’s transformation

PRAYER

Lord, I pray for open physical affection between my husband and me. Enable each of us to lay aside self-consciousness or apathy and be effusive in our display of love. Help us to demonstrate how much we care for and value each other. Remind us throughout each day to affectionately touch one another in some way. Help us to not be cold, undemonstrative, uninterested, or remote. Enable us to be warm, tender, compassionate, loving, and adoring. Break through any hardheadedness on our part that refuses to change and grow. If one of us is less affectionate to the other’s detriment, bring us into balance.

Where any lack of affection has planted a negative view of marriage in our children, or taught them an incorrect way of relating to a marriage partner, help us to model the right way so that they can observe it. Show us how to openly confess or errors to them and demonstrate our commitment to live differently.

Change our habits of indifference or busyness. May we not so take each other for granted that we don’t’ make the effort to reach out and touch one another with affection. Help us not to weaken the marriage through neglect of this vital means of communication. I pray that we always “greet one another with a kiss of love”(1Peter 5:14). I know that only the transforming power of the Holy Spirit can make changes that last. I trust You to transform us and make us the husband and wife You called us to be.

POWER TOOLS

Philippians 2:1-2; 2:4

Ephesians 5:28-29

Song of Solomon 2:6

1 Corinthians 10:24

DAY 6

PRAYING FOR HIS TEMPTATIONS 

Temptations can come in many folds, drinking, hanging out till late night, women….the best time to start praying about these temptations is before it happens, and if it is already happening, pray it stops.

PRAYER

Lord, I pray that You would strengthen my husband to resist any temptation that comes his way. Stamp it out of his mind before it ever reaches his heart or personal experience. Lead him not into temptation, but deliver him from evils such as adultery, pornography, drugs, alcohol, food addiction, gambling, and perversion. Remove temptation especially in the area of (name specific temptation). Make him strong where he is weak. Help him to rise above anything that erects itself as a stronghold in his life. May he say, I will set nothing wicked before my eyes; I hate the work of those who fall away; it shall not cling to me(Psalm 101:3).

Lord, You’ve said that “Whoever has no rule over his own spirit Is like a city broken down, without walls”(Proverbs 25:28). I pray that my husband(husbands name) will not be broken down by the power of evil, but raised up by the power of God. Establish a wall of protection around him. Fill him with Your Spirit and flush out all that is not of You. Help him to take charge over his own spirit and have self-control to resist anything and anyone who becomes a lure. May he “abhor what is evil. Cling to what is good”(Romans 12:9). I pray that he will be repulsed by tempting situations. Give him courage to reject them. Teach him to walk in the Spirit so he will not fulfill the lust of the flesh.

POWER TOOLS

James 1:13-15

1 Corinthians 10:13

                    Romans  13:13-14

1 Timothy 6:9

Galatians 5:19-21

The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian

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The Good Wife-Prayer Battle day 1-3

Hello dear friends, Have you ever thought in your marriage, ooh when am i going to get it all 100%. Well, marriage is a life time school, you keep learning everyday despite any issue you face, in fact those issues are like examples in the learning phase and never for one to hold up for depressions, separation or divorce. You see it is never God's will for divorce or separation, it angers HIM. If you are married and you and your husband fight all the time, or are emotionally disconnected, or live in marital deadness, it is not normal....What you need to do as the wife is to brace up, be strong take it up to God passionately and win the battle and your husband. The wife's prayer for her husband is greater than any other person's prayer because you are one with your husband. For The next few days i will drop  prayer point/motivational write up  you can meditate and pray with  from the book i read "The Power of a Praying Wife by Stomie Omartian"

PRAYING FOR YOUR HUSBAND

DAY 1

HIS WIFE

As a wife going into prayer for your Husband or family, your heart needs to be clean and void of any sin to get better results, so take time and evaluate very well. That’s why to win this battle and to lose your husband from the evil ones it starts with you. Take out every unforgiveness, hatred, any form of sin from your heart, not doing this can sabotage your prayers or make it slower in seeing results

PRAYER

Lord, help me to be a good wife. I fully realize that I don’t have what it takes to be one without Your help. Take my selfishness, impatience, and irritability and turn them into kindness, long-suffering, and the willingness to bear all things. Take my old emotional habits, mindsets, automatic reactions, rude assumptions, and self-protective stance, and make me patient, kind, good, faithful, gentle, and self-controlled. Take the hardness of my heart and break down the walls with Your battering ram of revelation. Give me a new heart and work in me Your love, peace, and joy(Galatians 5:22,23). I am not able to rise above who I am at this moment. Only you can transform me.

Show me where there is sin in my heart, especially with regard to my husband. I confess the times I’ve been unloving, critical, angry, resentful, disrespectful, or unforgiving toward him. Help me to put aside any hurt, anger, or disappointment I feel and forgive him the way You do—totally and completely, no looking back. Make me a tool of reconciliation, peace, and healing in this marriage. Enable us to communicate well and rescue us from the threshold of separation where the realities of divorce begin.

Make me my husband’s helpmate, companion, champion, friend, and support. Help me to create a peaceful, restful, safe place for him to come home to. Teach me how to take care of myself and stay attractive to him. Grow me into a creative and confident woman who is rich in mind, soul, and spirit. Make me the kind of woman he can be pound to say is his wife.

I lay all my expectations at Your cross. I release my husband from the burden of fulfilling me in areas where I should be looking to You. Help me to accept him the way he is and not try to change him. I realize that in some ways he may never change, but at the same time, I release him to change in ways I never thought he could. I leave any changing that needs to be done in Your hands, fully accepting that neither of us is perfect and never will be. Only You, Lord, are perfect and I look to You to perfect us.

Teach me how to pray for my husband and make my prayers a true language of love. Where love has died, create a new love between us. Show me what unconditional love really is and how to communicate it in a way he can clearly perceive. Bring unity between us so that we can be in agreement above everything (Amos 3:3). May the God of patience and comfort grant us to be like-minded toward one another, according to Christ Jesus(Romans 15:5). Make us a team, not pursuing separate competitive, or independent lives, but working together, overlooking each other’s faults and weaknesses for the greater good of the marriage. Help us to pursue the things which make for peace and things by which one may edify another(Romans 14:19). May we be perfectly joined together in the same mind and in the same judgement(1 Corinthians 1:10). 

I pray that our commitment to You and to one another will grow stronger and more passionate every day. Enable him to be the head of the home as You made him to be, and show me how to support and respect him as he rises to that place of leadership. Help me to understand his dreams and see things from his perspective. Reveal to me what he wants and needs and show me potential problems before they arise. Breath Your life into this marriage. 

Make me a new person, Lord. Give me a fresh perspective, a positive outlook, and a renewed relationship with the man You’ve given me. Help me see him with new eyes, new appreciation, new love, new compassion, and new acceptance. Give my husband a new wife, and let it be me.

POWER TOOLS

Mark 11:24,25

Ephesians 4:32

Matthew 7:7,8

Proverbs 24:3,4

Galatians 6:9

DAY 2

PRAYING FOR ''HIS WORK''

A man finds joy and fulfilment when he can cater for his family, some men are workaholics and some are lazy, neither of them in extreme is good, but finding a balance between the two, which God can help a man find will bring that quality of life and true joy. As the wife pray for your husband's work so that he would be where God wants him to be and be truly fulfilled.

PRAYER

Lord, I pray that You would bless the work of my husband’s hands. May his labour bring not only favour, success, and prosperity, but great fulfilment as well. If the work he is doing is not in line with Your perfect will for his life, reveal it to him. Show him what he should do differently and guide him down the right path. Give him strength, faith, and a vision for the future so he can rise above any propensity for laziness. May he never run from work out of fear, selfishness, or desire to avoid responsibility. On the other hand, help him to see that he doesn't have to work himself to death for man’s approval, or grasp for gain beyond what is a gift from You. Give him the ability to enjoy his success without striving for more. Help him to excel, but free him from the pressure to do so.

I pray that You will be Lord over his work, and may he bring You into every aspect of it. Give him enough confidence in the gifts You’ve placed in him to be able to seek, find, and do good work. Open up doors of opportunity for him that no man can close. Develop his skills so that they grow more valuable with each passing year. Show me what I can do to encourage him.

I pray that his work will be established, secure, successful, satisfying, and financially rewarding. May he not be lagging in diligence but fervent in spirit, serving the Lord(Romans 12:11). Let him be like a tree planted by the stream of Your living water, which brings forth fruit in due season. May he never wither under pressure, but grow strong and prosper (Psalm 1:3).

Running a Home when Your Spouse is Far Away

As a wife/mother running a home when your husband/spouse is far away either for an official duty, or working in a different state or living oversees is not easy, it could be overwhelming especially when the children are still little and you have no one to help. The key thing here is never do everything all at once, from experience even if you try you discover it is never complete, there’s always something left to do. Instead brace yourself and make use of planning, it really works. Here’s a peep on my daily and weekly plans.

Daily Plan

Morning devotion

Hygiene for me and my baby

Breakfast

Bonding, lunch, diner

Cleaning the home

Weekly Plan

Mondays-cooking in large quantity

Tuesdays-Dusting/Mopping

Wednesdays-Laundry

Fridays-Bathroom cleaning

Saturdays- Shopping/outings

Sweeping/dish washing is on daily bases

When your husband is around this plan still goes only the meal choice is different, always call 1 hour before his close of work to confirm what he would have for diner, to avoid making diner twice and to make diner fresh and hot. 

On the other hand if you still cannot cope with handling the home alone despite your planning, there is nothing bad using a helping hand. 

Vegetable Soup

I love vegetables, because of its nutritional values, every week my family takes vegetables either as salad or soups. Here is how i make my vegetable soup.

Ingredients

Meat

Dry fish/stock fish (optional)

Pomo (Optional)

Crayfish

Palm Oil

Onion

Salt, Maggi, Dry pepper

Waterleaf

Ugwu

Before Cooking

Boil your meat

Wash and cut your stockfish and dry fish into bits

Wash and cut your vegetables

Clean your pomo

Preparation

Wash your vegetables and set them aside, i recommend cutting them yourself and wash with salt. Boil your meat.

Hit little quantity of oil and add onions, allow it to get brown, then add your washed waterleaf, allow to cook for 2 mins. Then add crayfish, pomo, meat, stock fish, salt, maggi and dry pepper then allow to cook for 5 mins. add the dryfish and ugwu, live to cook for 5 mins and that’s it your soup is ready. serve with fufu, eba, pounded yam , wheat, yam, rice, spaghetti, anyhow you like it.

Preparation time: 15mins aside time to boil the meat!

I'll update with other methods to cook this soup later, Happy Cooking!