Transition From Working Class Wife To Stay At Home Mum

This is a delicate issue, It is not easy been a stay at home mum especially when you were working before, "Family is Life" At first if you decide to become a stay at home mum, you may feel like you are been lazy, but I tell you its a wise decision, think about  your children, they need proper care, attention and training, the best place they can get it is from you, I believe you don't want to miss your children milestone do you?

Before you make such big decision please think about it very well, pray, talk with your husband before drawing up a conclusion.

Some few years back say 5 years ago if anyone had come up to me and say hey you will one day become a stay at home mum, i’ll say never, even down to say 2years ago. Discussions with friends about the future as at then was career career and career, we would discuss how we would juggle work, the home, parenting and get every aspect of our lives balanced. Well am a graduate degree holder with a good result. 

I was a career woman, working and taking care of the home activities. But as soon as i had a beautiful gift from God –my daughter just seeing her smile, i could not let career or working get in my way for caring for her .

I know most women wont want to give up working to care for their children, there's day care, minders, you know deep down that no one can care for your child more than you the mum. Your time and money is nothing compared to spending it with your children, all those moments you cannot recall.  

Today stay at home mums just don’t stay been idle  these days they blog, have YouTube channels, we have a lot of mummy blogs out there, freelance writers. These things keep you  busy and reduces nagging and even though you are not doing any of these, taking care of your children is enough to keep you busy throughout the day so much so that it feels like 24 hours is not enough, you know what i mean mums, lol.

The Career:

You want to be at the top of your career, you can always further your education when it is best convenient for you, probably when the children are a little grown and know good from bad, you can get that masters degree, or your PhD, become a professor. Etc or get professionally certified.

The money.

I believe you and your husband are 1 and if he is comfortable you are too and so is the family. But  after the children are grown and you want to get a job, it is not a bad idea. There are so many cases of women returning to the labour market 10, 12 years later or becoming an employer of labour.

You don't need to compare yourself with family A or B, nobody or family or child is equal, we are all unique in our own ways, what worked out well for you may not work out well for me.

Here are some few thoughts I have for your information.

When choosing to stay at home, since you worked before you may be feeling unfulfilled, please don't, enjoy parenting, because you as the wife is the caretaker of your marriage and family. But if you feel a need to do more, you can invest in business which will give you luxury time for your kids, I mean that is the point why you stopped work.

Before choosing to stop work here are some few tips you should consider after you must had a productive discussion with your husband

• Is your husband's salary enough to cater for the basic needs of the family
• If your husband is laid off, will there be enough cash to run the home for at least 6 months before he or you get a job?
• Will you be mentally fine and not turn out to be a nagging wife

Now that you have chosen to quit working you need to know things have changed, make sure you always make diner before your husband comes from work and avoid nagging or gossiping with neighbours. Give your full attention to your children and care more for your husband.

If you are a working class mum and you are still caring for your family husband and children very well, kudos, you are totally killing it.

Family is everything and no one cares for you than your family.” You only start living when you realise that family is everything”.

I am a recent stay at home mum and i am enjoying every single bit of it. Now if you are thinking of joining, have a go!